Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy. (Eph. 5:25–26)


AS A SINGLE ADULT MALE, I admit that I have a lot to learn about marriage and love. However, I have had many conversations about this subject with men and women (both married and single). I have seen many types of marriages—from those that are great to those that are downright bad. Through these conversations, I’ve learned one valuable piece of information: Everyone has a lot to learn about love and what it means to truly love someone.

Think about this: If God himself is love, this means that love in its truest form is holy and pure. It is not just a feeling or an emotion; it is who God is. If we are becoming like Christ and we do not fully understand Him, we must admit that we do not fully understand love.

This isn’t simply an unfortunate conclusion or revelation; it is the acceptance that love is an exciting aspect of God’s character that we continue to learn about together in the body of Christ. As we come together, we learn from each other and with each other. We learn how to relate to each other and how to overcome conflict when it arises. Through these connections, we are better able to grasp the fullness of Christ’s love for us. In turn this allows us to love each other as we should.

Ask God to show you how you can love others as He loves you.

Traver Paul Butcher is passionate about other cultures, travel, the outdoors, music, art, writing, leadership development, and introducing people to a man named Jesus.