If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church? (1 Tim. 3:5)

Travis trusted his Toyota because of the reviews it got in all the consumer reports, but he failed to provide his car the oil changes, tune-ups, and regular maintenance that were recommended. Soon he found himself in his local mechanic’s shop with a blown transmission and an engine block that had cracks in it. The once-reliable car he had driven off the lot after his college graduation was sitting in a parking lot a few years later, unable to start. What Travis failed to realize is that no matter what the consumer reports said, following the manufacturer’s instructions was critical in seeing the longevity he desired from his vehicle.

Paul wrote to Timothy about Christian leadership in the local church, but he didn’t focus on eloquent sermons, church meetings, and fund raising for the latest building. He started with what was going on at home: managing the affairs of one’s marriage, children, personal finances, and a deep level of self-awareness and discipline.

I’ve learned that some of the most trusted friends and mentors in my life have a long view of their relationships and their family. They create regular rhythms of Sabbath and personal reflection, but also engage in meaningful conversation and time with their spouse, and intentional, quality moments with their children. They disciple their children while also making disciples of their congregants.

Create regular rhythms for your family that encourage trust and accountability.

Santes Beatty is director of multiethnic ministries for The Wesleyan Church.

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