So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herdsmen and mine, for we are brothers.” (Gen. 13:8)

THE BRIDE AND HER “ENTOURAGE” arrive ready to select a dress for the big day. Often there are several friends, multiple moms and grandmothers, sometimes a dad, or even a fiancée. All parties have an opinion they feel compelled to share, whether hurtful or productive. And though the whole event seems nothing like a party, eventually a happy conclusion comes by the episode’s end. You know the television shows to which I refer, and I have to admit they are a guilty pleasure of mine. Though, each time I watch, I renew my vow to my daughter that we will not take an entire fleet of folks, and it will be her decision to make.

When Abram invited Lot to select the direction he wanted to go, he likely knew Lot would choose that which appeared to be the most fertile and profitable portion of land. At the time, neither knew what devastation God would bring to the sinful community into which Lot settled. All that was known was that Abram wanted to keep the peace with his family. He sought only to avoid disputes and give Lot what he wanted, without selfish concerns or comments.

Isn’t it easy to behave like a spoiled child when we want something contrary to another person’s wishes? Abram sought harmony with his self-centered companion, and he was rewarded for it.

When settling disputes, always remember Abram’s unselfish, peace-making approach, and let God handle the rest.

Hally Franz is a former high school guidance counselor turned stay-at-home mom. She enjoys being a 4-H leader, church secretary, book club member, and traveler.