Dr. Virginia Holeman
Building Safe and Secure Relationships
Creating and maintaining connections that feel safe and secure with your spouse is an ongoing process that requires vulnerability and courage.
Are You Experiencing Compassion Fatigue?
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Gal. 6:9). Compassion fatigue is “weariness in doing good.”
Thrive In 5-The Art of Love
In your family, how can you embody some aspect of 1 Corinthians 13 a little bit more?
Thrive In 5-The Motivational (Emotional)
As a pastor, If you have discovered that your motivation has taken a vacation and left you behind, you are not alone.
Thrive In 5-Co-Regulation (Relational)
“Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” –Jesus, John 14:27
Thrive In 5-The Practice of Emotional Wellness (Emotional)
How would you rate your emotional wellness?
Thrive In 5-Commitment (Relational)
Commitment is an essential quality of long-term relationships.
Thrive In 5: Emotional – Feeling Safe
Since March 2020 the world in which we live feels like a dangerous place. For some of us, that sense of danger is actually real. For others of us, the sense of danger is more in our nonconscious perception of threat.
Thrive In 5: Relational – Trust and Trustworthiness
Trust and trustworthiness are essential qualities of relationships that last a lifetime.
Thrive In 5: Emotional – Ambiguous Loss
The COVID-19 virus has changed the way we “do life” and “do church” so that we are simultaneously absent and present.
Thrive In 5: Relational- Creating Shared Meaning
Relationships that last.
Thrive In 5: Emotional -Are you a “High Hoper?”
All of us will face moments when we must exercise hope. Hope researchers observe that hope is active, not passive. “High hopers” exert whatever degree of control they have to reach that for which they hope.
Thrive In 5: Relational- Honor Each Other’s Life Dreams
Five Keys to Good Conflict Management
Thrive In 5: Emotional- Emotional Rule of Life
Cultivating a healthier emotional life.
Thrive In 5: Relational- Good Conflict Management
Five Keys to Good Conflict Management
Thrive In 5: Emotional-Holiday Season Preparation
With the holidays just around the corner, pastors are entering one of their busiest seasons….
Thrive In 5: Relational- Solvable vs. Perpetual Problems
How many times in your intimate relationships have your best problem-solving skills failed?
Thrive In 5: Emotional -Self-justification
Self-justification
Thrive In 5: Relational- Contempt is the Corrosive Acid in any Relationship
Contemptuous statements are disrespectful ways of putting down your spouse, your children, friend or your colleague. An immediate response to contempt is to defend against it with counter-criticism, counter-contempt or by withdrawing from the relatio
Thrive In 5: Emotional – Peacefulness through Prayer
Peacefulness through Prayer
Thrive In 5: Relational
What is a secret to strong relationships? In his book “The Relationship Cure,” relational researcher, John Gottman, suggests that we should be on the lookout for “bids for connection” and turn toward these bids whenever we can. What is a bid for connection? A...
Thrive In 5: Emotional – Anxiety
Here are five things you can do to turn off your God-given anxiety alarm bells when they are over active.
Thrive in 5: Relational Attunement
Neuroscientists affirm that we are “wired for connection” from birth. Infant brains develop best when caretakers are in sync—attuned—with babies’ physical, emotional, and relational needs. Obviously, no caretaker is in sync 100 percent of the time; caregivers provide...
